Have you ever wondered why the rape victim gets blamed for it? Or why they blame themselves? I have.
Have you ever wondered why a bully victim is told to "just toughen up and they'll back off" as though it somehow their fault the bully chose to target them? I have.
And have you ever wondered why an abused spouse gets so little support from so many people? I definitely have.
Did you wonder, as I did, reading about the Rotherham report why the police looked the other way? Or why sex abuse victims of Asian background stay silent because of the shame they'll bring on their family?
Or do you hear about the recent sex crimes (let's call it like it is) against celebrities such as Jennifer Lawrence and wonder why on earth everybody is blaming her? I did.
Then I read an article on Psychology Today addressing exactly that issue. Are we blaming the famous victims of the nude photo thefts? And, after I read it, I understood the world a little bit more. And saw more clearly just what the affects of sin has had on the world.
Turns out, there's this thing called the Just World Phenomenon. This is essentially our instinctive belief (or need to believe) that the world is a just and fair place. Humans have such a strong reaction against injustice that in order to create the perception of justice, they find reasons to blame the victims of injustice. The greater the injustice, the stronger the reaction of blaming the victim. This, therefore, eradicates the injustice of the world and everything is right and fair and proper again.
Except that it isn't. Because children are still being abused. Women (and men) are still being taken advantage of. Private property is still being stolen. And now, not only is the unjust act happening, it is also being encouraged as people look the other or blame the victim.
And the great irony of this entire phenomenon is that the very desire for justice, the need for justice, is what causes some of the greatest injustices.
It's what says that prostitutes must enjoy their work or they would leave - allowing extreme sexual, emotional, psychological and spiritual abuse to continue unchecked. It's what leaves abused husbands and wives trapped in their abusive circumstances. It's what leaves a child feeling drained and empty as they are being bullied - because let me tell you, as someone who spent years of my life being bullied, it is the thought that you deserve what is happening to you that hurts the most. As though somehow my white skin, funny accent, strange religion and intelligence gave the bully a license to bully me.
And here's what I have realized: it is only when we recognize that the world is an unjust place that justice can be served. It is only when we can wrap our heads around the contradiction that is our world - the belief in the existence of justice and the undeniable presence of injustice - that we can begin to heal the wounds of the hurting.
Because it's true - justice is a fundamental part of the design of the world. Injustice was never the intention of our Creator. I'm starting to think that the longing for, the desire for, justice is part of what it means to be created in His image. Our world was designed to be a place of justice. And humans were designed to be just and fair.
Only something went very, very wrong. One split second of desiring something more than perfection has led to a whole world of imperfection. One split second of desiring something more than justice has lead to a whole world of injustice. We sinned. And the world became an unjust place. And people became an unjust people.
And so we can understand a little more of the state of the world. We were designed for justice, so we long for it and see the world through the lens of "is this just?" But we sinned, so we live in the middle of injustice, dishing out injustice.
But, hey! Good news. Our perfectly just God will do something about all the injustice. It hurts Him even more than it hurts us. He will rectify injustice. He will bring justice to all those who perpetrated injustice. He will punish them, severely.
But in His perfect justice, He is also perfectly merciful. So He has provided an escape from His punishment. By passing the punishment to One who did not deserve it. To Jesus. Injustice merits death. Just Jesus died (and then came back to life!) so that unjust humans could live. And this escape? It is sufficient for everyone. But it is efficient only for those who choose to take it.
And it's when we realize that a) the world is unjust, b) justice will be served and c) mercy has been given that we can begin to heal the wounds of injustice. Because we're not pointing fingers or pretending that injustice doesn't exist. Instead, we're acknowledging that injustice is rampant - and offering the solution.
Showing posts with label Death. Show all posts
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Monday, 12 August 2013
Willing to Die?
I wonder how many of us have ever thought to pray to be martyrs? Have ever thought that the ideal way to die would be to be killed, even torturously, for the sake of our faith in God?
I know it certainly hadn't occurred to me until about a year ago, as I read the story of Rachel Scott, who would have been 32 this month... if she hadn't been killed in the Columbine shootings all those years ago.
The book her parents had written included extracts asking that God take her life in the pursuit of his cause - I can't remember the exact phrasing and I can't check the book. And whilst the circumstances of her death, and the evidence, mean the jury is still out as to whether or not she was specifically targeted for her faith or just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time (or the right place at the right time, if you use a God perspective), it certainly got me thinking.
And earlier this year, I read the story of BJ Higgins. Again, he was not a martyr in the sense of being killed for his faith, but he did die (age 15) as the result of a mysterious infection (very, very like the Black Plague - the tests were not definitive enough for diagnoses) that he contracted while on the mission field. Like Rachel, he too had pledge his entire life to God.
And the question kept ticking over in my mind: would I do God's work if I knew I would die, or had to die, for it?
And I'll be honest, my answer is yes, but I've always wondered: is that just because my life is currently not at risk? Would I ultimately value my life over my God? Or my God over my Life?
Then on Saturday, at ReachOut, the question was crystalised further.
It was when we were discussing finding our mission impossible, that the presenter asked us:
what are we willing to risk?
do we think we have the Gift of Martyrdom?
He looked at us and warned: "this is a gift you can only test once."
If you're dead, you're dead. There's no going back.
He told us he knew of only one person who had ever put up his hand and said he thought he had that gift. He challenged that if we think we have that Gift, we should be willing to take risks that could cost us our lives. Go places where we might die.
In my mind, I took that a step further: be willing to stay in a place so dangerous everyone was urging me to leave.
Would I do that? Would I be willing to go to one of the top ten countries on the Open Doors World Watch List?
Would I be able to stay there, speaking the Gospel, telling the Bible, if I knew I could be killed at any day?
Or would I turn tail and run?
Would I be willing to follow the footsteps of Noah, Joseph, Moses, Esther, Jeremiah, Daniel, Stephen, Paul and the thousands upon thousands who have risked their lives, have given their lives, in order to do God's work?
Would I be willing to say, as Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego did:
And as I ponder the question, I think, I think, the answer is yes.
Because I think it's a decision to take the risks. It's a decision to stand firm.
But, boy, if I am to hold onto that resolution, will I need prayer.
Because this body is frail. My heart is weak. I will need to strength of God when I face the Cup.
So I'm going to appeal to you, my dear readers, to stand with me. I do not ask you to come with me. But please, pray for me, that I will take those risks when the opportunities arise, or will look for those opportunities. And hold me accountable. Challenge me to risk all. Don't let me get comfortable with being safe.
Because I believe that God's work - reaching the unreached, bringing grace to the graceless, hope to the hopeless, and light to those in the dark - is of more value than my own life, though my heart shakes even as I type those words.
I know it certainly hadn't occurred to me until about a year ago, as I read the story of Rachel Scott, who would have been 32 this month... if she hadn't been killed in the Columbine shootings all those years ago.
The book her parents had written included extracts asking that God take her life in the pursuit of his cause - I can't remember the exact phrasing and I can't check the book. And whilst the circumstances of her death, and the evidence, mean the jury is still out as to whether or not she was specifically targeted for her faith or just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time (or the right place at the right time, if you use a God perspective), it certainly got me thinking.
And earlier this year, I read the story of BJ Higgins. Again, he was not a martyr in the sense of being killed for his faith, but he did die (age 15) as the result of a mysterious infection (very, very like the Black Plague - the tests were not definitive enough for diagnoses) that he contracted while on the mission field. Like Rachel, he too had pledge his entire life to God.
And the question kept ticking over in my mind: would I do God's work if I knew I would die, or had to die, for it?
And I'll be honest, my answer is yes, but I've always wondered: is that just because my life is currently not at risk? Would I ultimately value my life over my God? Or my God over my Life?
Then on Saturday, at ReachOut, the question was crystalised further.
It was when we were discussing finding our mission impossible, that the presenter asked us:
what are we willing to risk?
do we think we have the Gift of Martyrdom?
He looked at us and warned: "this is a gift you can only test once."
If you're dead, you're dead. There's no going back.
He told us he knew of only one person who had ever put up his hand and said he thought he had that gift. He challenged that if we think we have that Gift, we should be willing to take risks that could cost us our lives. Go places where we might die.
In my mind, I took that a step further: be willing to stay in a place so dangerous everyone was urging me to leave.
Would I do that? Would I be willing to go to one of the top ten countries on the Open Doors World Watch List?
Would I be able to stay there, speaking the Gospel, telling the Bible, if I knew I could be killed at any day?
Or would I turn tail and run?
Would I be willing to follow the footsteps of Noah, Joseph, Moses, Esther, Jeremiah, Daniel, Stephen, Paul and the thousands upon thousands who have risked their lives, have given their lives, in order to do God's work?
Would I be willing to say, as Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego did:
We do not need to defend ourselves before you. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God whom we serve is able to save us. He will rescue us from your power, Your Majesty. But even if He doesn't, we want to make it clear to you, Your Majesty, that we will never serve your gods or worship the gold statue you have set up. ~ Daniel 3: 16 - 18Would I do that?
And as I ponder the question, I think, I think, the answer is yes.
Because I think it's a decision to take the risks. It's a decision to stand firm.
But, boy, if I am to hold onto that resolution, will I need prayer.
Because this body is frail. My heart is weak. I will need to strength of God when I face the Cup.
So I'm going to appeal to you, my dear readers, to stand with me. I do not ask you to come with me. But please, pray for me, that I will take those risks when the opportunities arise, or will look for those opportunities. And hold me accountable. Challenge me to risk all. Don't let me get comfortable with being safe.
Because I believe that God's work - reaching the unreached, bringing grace to the graceless, hope to the hopeless, and light to those in the dark - is of more value than my own life, though my heart shakes even as I type those words.
Thursday, 1 August 2013
Al-Messieh Kalm (Jesus is Risen)
Have you ever heard about Clayton McDonald? I'll be honest, I won't be surprised if you haven't.
He died nearly four years ago, a little over a month before he turned 19.
I read his story a couple of months ago. I watched the video he put together with his friends.
It has stuck with me.
A young man who knew when he was going to die, and was scared... for everyone else.
A young man who met his death with calm contentedness.
And my mind still turns over his story regularly. And I still wonder: how can anyone be so satisfied when they can see the last grains of sand running out of their life? And if I was to be in a situation like Clayton... dying and knowing it... would I be as content? Would I be as concerned about everyone else as he was?
And I penned the other day, as writers do, a scene from someone's story, and it answers the first question far more eloquently than I ever could:
As for the second question... I hope so. But to be honest... I don't know... I just don't know if my faith runs that deep yet... and that scares me more than the thought of death.
He died nearly four years ago, a little over a month before he turned 19.
I read his story a couple of months ago. I watched the video he put together with his friends.
It has stuck with me.
A young man who knew when he was going to die, and was scared... for everyone else.
A young man who met his death with calm contentedness.
And my mind still turns over his story regularly. And I still wonder: how can anyone be so satisfied when they can see the last grains of sand running out of their life? And if I was to be in a situation like Clayton... dying and knowing it... would I be as content? Would I be as concerned about everyone else as he was?
And I penned the other day, as writers do, a scene from someone's story, and it answers the first question far more eloquently than I ever could:
"Why? Why are you so..." he stopped, turning his head away. He was afraid he'd start shaking her again. "This is your own life we're talking about. How can you be so calm?"
She stretched her hand up, gently placing it on his cheek, turning his head so he had to meet her eyes. "Al-Messieh kalm" she said, her voice warm and gentle.
Her eyes, warm and compassionate, seem to draw him out of himself. He pressed his lips together, choking back the rote response. Her eyes saddened. She reached up on her toes and kissed his forehead. Without saying another word, she walked out of the room.
He stayed where he was, eyes wet, heart heavy.
"What did she say?"
The question reminded him of the others in the room. He blinked, throat working. "She said 'Jesus is risen.' "
As for the second question... I hope so. But to be honest... I don't know... I just don't know if my faith runs that deep yet... and that scares me more than the thought of death.
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